HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY; WHERE DID THE LOVE GO?
What is Valentine’s Day?
Does it change anything in our life?
How often do we love our self?
When was the last time you took yourself out?
When was the last time you snuggled in bed just because you wanted to spend time with your own self?
When was the last time you took pictures of yourself and stuck them in your room because you love looking at yourself, instead of sharing it on social media so that others can like and share their views on how you look?
When was the last time you looked in the mirror and smiled, teased, laughed at yourself?
When was the last time you said “I am the best” for real to somebody instead of writing it as a caption on your picture? Do you have the guts to say you are the best and you love the way you are, to somebody on their face?
Do you really sleep peacefully every night? Without any worries about others?
Do we really know what love is? If we think we do, because we’re great at showing love to our loved one’s then where does self-love go? When does that happen?
So many of us are programmed to take care of others constantly. We often look for others to fulfil our desires and show affection to us. We don’t usually enjoy investing in ourselves or make us a priority.
Most of us, spend half of our lives adjusting to things, compromising, making others happy, and living our lives according to others just because we love them.
If we loved ourselves the way we love others we would have been the happiest in life.
This Valentine’s Day Love Yourself.
Here are 5 things you could start with:
- Forgive yourself
My friend Saniya, once told me how important forgiving ourselves is and how it changes our lives. I remember cribbing about things I couldn’t achieve while chatting with her often (things like not being able to blog regularly, not being able to attend a particular event or cancelling shoots etc.). I realised that cribbing about not being able to do stuff actually made me depressed due to which I couldn’t focus on bettering things.
One day while conversing with her, she showed me her diary where she wrote all the regrets she had, under which she had written the reasons and a question asking if she was really prepared for the things that didn’t work and answers below to those questions. It all made sense to me and I realized that blindly running in life with regrets will never help me grow in life. Everybody makes mistakes which is Just Fine. It all depends on how you take it.
2. Keep yourself first
There lies beauty in sacrifice. But when you constantly put yourself second, you set up an inevitable pattern of behavior. In time, you settle for second place in more than one area of life. Re-evaluate what it means to put yourself first: engaging in your interests, pursuing your ambitions, and ensuring your well-being. Your romantic relationships will flourish too if you keep yourself first. Whether you’re in a relationship or looking for one, I guarantee your partner will feel more enamored with you and more fulfilled in the relationship when you’re not afraid to make yourself a priority.
3. Say I love you.
Speak it to yourself every morning; look in a mirror and say “I love you” in a loud voice. We automatically critique, blame, and fault ourselves for nearly everything, rarely acknowledging the things we do well or those we ought to be proud of.
Show yourself daily doses of well-deserved appreciation.
4. Do something you love each day.
When was the last time you did something you truly loved? Our ambition is admirable, but our lives have become so busy that we often dismiss simple pleasures to take care of business. Whether it’s a hobby, talent, or special craft, take thirty minutes out of your day, each day, to practice what nourishes your soul. Everything can wait while you indulge in your beloved self.
5. Cut out all negative influences
Make a list of the people in your life who have no place being there. You know who they are — those who drain you physically, emotionally, or mentally, who take advantage of you or cause you any form of stagnation. Literally cut your list in half and let this be reflective of the way in which you will trim away these negative influences in real life.
Lastly, celebrate your worth.
It’s easy to get distracted by potential achievements and neglect past accomplishments. Don’t be afraid to raise your glass and toast to that amazing person who’s conquered their every challenge: YOU. Remember, you were born to be perfectly loved and completely lovable.
There is no better time to begin than NOW.